The One? How Do You Know?

Earlier tonight, my soror posed a question to twitter: How do you know when someone is "the one"? My response to her was:

"...laawwdd where do I start...I don't think you can know for sure until you're in a ready space.... you have to know who you are and Whose you are first. Then be open to and ready for having that person presented to you......you may already know "the one" but if you aren't prepared to receive him then you'll be blind to it...but once that's in place, you'll feel it in your spirit. You can look at him and know, & be able to explain it w/his actions...he treats you differently, even better than the best you've been treated by other men. I don't mean materially..."

I've never had that conversation before, so all of those statements are organic. I'd add now that the person who is "the one" for you sparks something in you. He or she lights a fire. Not just a passionate or loving or lusty fire, they give you an inspiration to better yourself in someway. This person motivates you to be the best version of yourself just by being present in your life. This is someone you trust without questioning and supports you without you asking.

I could go on with a laundry list of attributes I believe you find in "the one" but those would be attributes of my "one". I understand that this may manifest differently for different people based on what they believe and desire.

I wrote this post because I thought she posed a great question and I'd love to hear different perspectives on it. Thoughts?